When you start college you are required to wait
a semester before you are allowed to pledge any fraternity or sorority. The
reason the university makes you wait is because you need a minimum GPA of 2.5
to join any Greek organization. Since the org can’t use your high school GPA
they make you wait a semester and if your GPA is high enough you can go out for
an org. My first year dorming I lived at Adelphi University, I had never really
been away from home before so I made the most of it by making friends with the
people on my floor. I dormed in Eddy Hall for those of you who are familiar
with the campus. The picture below is of me and the friends that I made my
freshman year of college.
(From Left to Right: Sara N, Eric G, Ashley G,
Anita S, Joey O, me, my roommate at the time, Amanda S, Rachel T and Abby
P)(Not Pictured: Chris B)
This picture is of us going
out to the Hofstra Strip together. Like I said earlier I don’t drink so I was
always the DD (designated driver). These guys were like (and still are) a
family to me. They were by my side through a year that I don’t think I could
have handled by myself. A lot of things changed my freshman year and without
them I don’t know what I would have done or where I would be today. I love you
all<3
The second semester of my freshman year at
Adelphi I became eligible to go out for a Greek organization. My GPA was much
higher than 2.5 so I made the academic cut, however, I was still hesitant to go
out for a sorority. It just didn’t seem to scream “Bre” to me and I didn’t want
to do something like that half-hearted. One of my close friends who lived in my
dorm came up to me and said:
“Bre, I really wanna
join a sorority but I’m afraid to go out by myself. Please come to “Meet the
Greeks” with me”.
Now I knew nothing about
sororities back then so of course my answer was “no”. She explained to me that
going to a Greek Fair or “Meet the Greeks” didn’t automatically tie me to any org.
It was kind of just an informal meeting to introduce freshman to the frats and
soros on campus. Not knowing what I was walking into I agreed and the next day
her and I walked together after class to the “great lawn” where the booths were
set up. It was all so overwhelming, kind of like a giant carnival. There was
music playing and girls screaming chants and raffles and people giving out
bracelets and food. My goodness it was intense. Each booth had huge wooden
Greek letters that were painted and displayed by their tables. They had baskets
full of stuffed animals (of their mascot) that were wearing miniature shirts
with their orgs letters on it. They had huge photo albums showing all of the
girls smiling and posing with each other and underneath were short bios
of each sister. I had no idea what to ask or say so as I approached booth after
booth I kinda just hovered, following my friend and listening while other
freshman asked the upper class soro girls questions. By the end of the
afternoon I had a lot of fun and it seemed pretty cool but I was still
hesitant. I told myself that if she ended up joining then I would too and
if not then I wouldn’t.
Well
as it turned out I ended up not joining a sorority that semester. My friend got
cold feet (probably because of all of the vicious rumors about hazing) and
decided that it wasn't for her so by association I didn't join either. They say
that "everything happens for a reason" and I truly believe that
because my org, Alpha Xi Delta, does not have a chapter at Adelphi so I
wouldn't have joined AXiD, I would have joined a different sorority. It almost
scares me that I almost wasn't an AXiD. I love my sisters and I love my org so
much. I'm sure that I would have loved whatever sorority I would have joined
(had I did accept a bid at Adelphi) no matter what but now being an Alpha Xi
Delta I feel I made the right decision for me. Every girl is different and you
need to find the org that is right for YOU. It's YOUR decision so never let
anyone choose for you. Everything does happen for a reason and that’s the
reason I'm an AXiD today.
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